Shackled

Life was rosy. I used to fly high on my dreams and be carefree.

The only conundrum presented by life, was how to live the day more fully, than I had lived the previous day.

Time passed and one day I noticed a woman by my side. They called her MY WIFE…

It seemed I had married and life had moved on, but then, had I? I was and… hmmm… on second thoughts… still a hopeless romantic, always trying to live a romantic life.

Somewhere things died between us, and the distance kept increasing. My only joy was the toddler. As days went by, the cold increased, and the air became more frigid. She preferred her parents, and before long, I found myself a villain of sorts.

7 years passed by, and today I stand at the next conundrum that life so famously offers – a crossroad where you know not where to turn.

The matriarchal society didn’t prepare me for the onslaught that I was to receive… The prejudice was very simple… If the feminine gender applied for separation  it was because she was undergoing harassment wherein if the male gender applied for separation, it was due to his wish to replace her.

There never seemed a possibility that a WOMAN COULD HARASS A MAN TOO.

A Decision was taken…

I looked at the mirror, and saw the facade of a tired lonely soul. I looked into the eyes of THAT tired me, and decided, this is it. Let me build my life back from the scratch, if that’s what it takes.

I was done with this long tragic drag of a wrong decision called marriage, and parted ways.

I buckled into the pressure pretty much soon after that, and got knived for the decision I took.

I felt sick at the disdain her family threw at me with their threats. I got disowned by all who liked to judge… I was never prepared for this… It was taken for granted that I was the perpetrator… How convenient !!!

The Thoughts…

Womanhood is something I have always revered, and still bow down to. Motherhood cannot be discarded and life wouldn’t exist if not for a woman, but then if my wife wanted to remain a daughter than a wife, I rather be alone than be married to my mother-in-law through her daughter.

Marriage of two souls is meant to be a journey of joy, where your partner is not your wife or husband, but your best friend first. Someone to whom you tell everything and anything. You wouldn’t for the world feel ashamed to fart in front of them, and he/she would love you even more for your snore. They would just hug you and say,”I really don’t care… All I know is I love you as you love me too!!!”.

It’s ALL of those minuscule factors of life that degrades one in front of others(society), that must add on as spice to a partnership for life…

The taboos of life on this Earth have been created by the society we live in. So why believe and follow the popular concepts of taboo, succumbing to one’s own insecurity in the process, wherein you can define the popular concepts of life and love, with your  partner yourself?

Marriage stands between two people and from them stems the society. A Society however, is formed due to the conglomeration of humans together.

If a couple decides a certain way forward, for their relationship to work without disturbing the further echelons of the society around them, then that must be the way forward for them with no interference from ANYBODY. I don’t think that should disturb anybody’s tranquility.

But then, what we normally do is, we follow and make the societal rules our first priority, and the relationship with our loved ones… based on that. How contradictory and sadder can we get…

The freedom and belief that he/she is there for life, no matter where you go or what you do…

The freedom to be naked from your soul to your partner… that is the relationship that works…

A Conclusion

Time is too short and we don’t live forever. Fortunately, we still are mortals on this Earth, and hence the time frame within which the mistake was made is also small compared to the eternity of the Gods. As long as we are not dead, its never too late to rectify our mistakes. We got to rectify our  mistakes right now itself, before we exhale the last breath with a sigh of dismay.

I better get ready soon to face the onslaught that has just yet started… coz I want to move on… love life again… love and feel loved again… living days fuller than I have ever done before… coz my life is too short for anything else… 🙂

And Unshackled…

Society will be given its due regard from now, but not before I have given my near and dears their due regard first…

Will I ?… Can I?… Can’t I?… Shouldn’t I?