When does one get angry?

When the issue that makes the person angry… pertains to his/her emotions. The issue, maybe related to his life, or it may never be related to his life.

How it grew in me…

The thought of anger was imbibed in me as a toddler… when I saw the adults around me getting angry, which in turn made the surrounding people subdued !!!

The meaning I derived ???

If you get angry, you have power and if you have power, you have control over others. I started testing it as a child on my parents and saw the result. They kept quiet !!!

They let me be and let me have what I wanted and I grew up being short-tempered…

What happens as we grow…

As we grow, the “ego” grows too .

” “I am the most important person on earth” and “everybody” is watching me” as a meaning grows too. I am so important that I cannot be insulted. And insult in my head means, being disrespected in front of “others”. And anything against the Ego – the ME, will anger me.

An Evaluation of the thought.

Who is “everybody” ?

The “Fictitious” list of people around me, who are “all” the time looking at me… due to which I feel self-conscious !!! (Really? They have better things to do in life!)

Who is “others” ?

People who are not immediately around me, but remember me and will always speak conspiratorially about me, especially behind my back. (As though they don’t have any other jobs to do!)

The Truth…

A Personal Evaluation First…

Am I actually bothered about everybody? Do I spend my time looking at others, see what they are doing, or how they are? No, never.

Am I always thinking about others and creating conspiratorial stories about people? No, I am not.

Here is where an analogy comes to mind.

When I was in School, College or Office – we had annual day functions and special days too. Well, I have performed on stage and I have played the role of audience too. When getting on stage, I was always self conscious. Thinking of how everybody is going to judge me. But when I sat in audience, I only played the role of a passive clapper, who is bothered more to talk to his friends, and willing to offer a passing glance to the performer on stage, unless of course it was someone near and dear to me who was on it.

In spite of that, I would not spend too much of time thinking of the performance that happened, and my focus eventually returns to my life as the days progress… and how “people” think about me.

So, my dear friend…

The Brutal Honest Truth that I have realized….

If a person isn’t bothered about me the way I am not bothered about him/her, then it means that there is no important ME / YOU. There is nobody watching me/you. Neither is there anybody constantly putting me / you in surveillance, nor is anybody talking conspiratorially behind my / your back !!!

So, if I / you am a nobody who is not watched and spoken about and quickly forgotten about by mankind, then why have an ego that will not help. Well, got to unlearn what I / we thought was the truth, and move beyond the facade, to become a no one.

Hopefully, I get somewhere before I reach my final destination, and right then… out pops in my mind… the lines by Robert Frost…

This I promise you/myself, that I will not get angry anymore!

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